S2E36: Getting Curious About The Human Experience With Life Coach, Stephanie Venditto

Stephanie Venditto is a life and purpose career coach.

While Stephanie began her career as an actress in film and television, her success led her to coaching actors and producers. Stephanie went on to work in the corporate fashion industry for a decade where she learned the value of leadership. After a profound trip to Italy, she experienced a transformation and took a complete left turn in her life that called her back to her true passion: coaching artists, designers and entrepreneurs.

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Maryann Samreth 0:00
Welcome to mental breakthrough, a mental health podcast about owning our most vulnerable stories. As a reminder, we are all human. I'm MaryAnn Samreth, trauma writing coach, founder of sincerely Miss Mary and your host. In this season, I bring in healers, coaches, therapists and writers in the mental health and thought leadership space to share their stories of overcoming their shadows, to get to a place where the light shines again. These are trauma survivors, mental health advocates, spiritual guides, coaches, and first and foremost, human beings, reminding us to be softer and kinder to ourselves, so we can then meet others with the same compassion. The power and sharing our truths with the world gives permission for others to feel safe experiencing theirs. As a disclaimer, this podcast is not a replacement for trauma informed therapy. But as always, you can find mental health resources on my website at www that sincerely, Miss marry.com.

Hey, everyone, this week's episode is with Stephanie vendido. Stephanie is that one of my dear friends, she is a career and life and purpose and human experience coach. She's amazing. And this episode is amazing. We discuss the meaning of life, and that we don't know what the meaning of life and maybe that's not the point to wonder what it is and to wonder what our sole purpose is maybe the point of being alive and being a human and being here is just to be instead of do and that's something that I'm currently going through in my life. If you guys haven't seen on social media, I got diagnosed with ovarian tumor. And it really put my whole perspective of life just to change me. This this time of my life. It's it's making me wonder how I want to live my life. 2021 was a lot of me working really hard to get my business off the ground that I don't even feel like I really lived my life. I felt like I was just surviving or hustling or just trying to prove to myself that I could do this and, and then I did it. And now I just Yeah, I want to move towards joy and happiness in ease. And I'm questioning a lot about what I want to do with my life. And how I want to show up and how I want to feel and how I want to be and maybe it's just moving towards things that give me peace, ease and happiness. And maybe it's okay not to know, maybe I just become curious about what that will look like, for me, because I don't know, if I'll be a memoir writing coach forever, I don't know what my life will look like. And that's the point is to be in the space of uncertainty. And just try to enjoy it and be curious about what makes us feel good and what makes us feel bad and what makes us feel anything because to feel anything to feel at all. Is is a reminder that we're human. So this episode is just giving you permission to just be human, whatever that looks like knowing that wherever you are in life, you're okay, you're enough, you're doing your best

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Hi, everyone. Welcome to mental breakthrough podcast. Today's guests, we have stuffy vendido. She's a career purpose and life coach. And she is one of my dear friends and one of my former co leads for my group trauma writing programs. Welcome, Stephanie. How are you doing today?

Stephanie Venditto 5:22
Hi, I'm doing okay, in this rainy rainy day.

Maryann Samreth 5:27
Thank you so much for coming in and telling your story I love every single interaction we've ever had from like, the minute we like met in this, like random fashion networking group. Just, yeah, you've been such a big part of my healing journey. And I can't wait to hear your story because I actually don't know your story and how you became the person you are today. So what is your mental breakthrough story? And how did you become Stephanie vendido career purpose and life coach?

Stephanie Venditto 6:00
So, as you've learned, you know, getting to know me any of these big questions are like, whoa. So I always want to answer first, I don't know. However, we can break it down a little bit more. You know, as far as mental breakthroughs, I think we have those almost every day. So I don't think there was one mental breakthrough that led me to one specific pivot in my life, I think it was just a series of breakthroughs that led to a series of little mini pivots, and, you know, along the journey, so I, you know, I, I've had a few different careers, let's just say, started off, you know, I think the first real career where I was, you know, paid and pay bills for was as an actress. And that was, let's just call that the first chapter, although there were many chapters before that. And that was wonderful and interesting, and quite a journey. And that took me to New York and Los Angeles, and back to New York again. And then I pivoted, completely unexpectedly into the fashion industry, doing textiles for a luxury fashion brand. And that led me to travel the world, which was a huge passion of mine, or desire, I should say, and taught me so many lessons about people about relationships, about myself working with others, versus just me, myself and I. And, and that took its that that took its 10 year course. And from there, I went into a program, which I came out of certified as a coach. And since then I've been kind of honing what kind of conversations and collaborations I'm interested in so that I can invite others, you know, aka clients to partake in the collaboration with me. How's that for an answer?

Maryann Samreth 8:13
Yeah. I mean, let's break it down even further. Because, I mean, you are in the entertainment industry, and the fashion industry, to most sought out industries. It's very competitive, it's very cutthroat. And yet you are so nice and so kind and and have such a genuine heart, and how did you manage, you know, situations within the fashion industry and entertainment industry, when it got challenging when it got hard when, you know, those those industries are hard, because it's creative. And you're also constantly, you know, having to question your identity. And sometimes your worth, like, how did you manage it? You know, being able to put yourself first when you're in these, you know, sometimes chaotic environments?

Stephanie Venditto 8:59
Well, I mean, you know, again, I don't know, you know, listen, when, when we are in real time with ourselves, we don't have a strategy, because we're in real time. So, how did I manage? I don't think I have an answer for that, other than to say, I was reactive, I was scared. I was, yeah, those two things are pretty good. And then, and then, you know, after being reactive or defensive and scared, then I was able to kind of, let's just say, journey into the next phase of that, which is, you know, step back, be thoughtful. See, even now, this is a great example. This is a great example of, of trying to come up with an answer that will, it's it's sort of like when we are in life and in these experiences. We don't know how we're going to react act, you know, and one thing I can say that I hope addresses the question somewhat is, both industries were really exciting. Both industries had their own level of competition. Both industries were incredibly creative. And there was camaraderie. I think more so in the, in my career as an actress, I felt camaraderie. I didn't feel such cut 3d. You know, I felt it was a bit more collaborative. And, yeah, there were times where I was incredibly insecure, where I second guessed myself, where I felt like I wasn't good enough, or I wasn't worthy. And we're always as good as our last. And if our last didn't go so well, well, then that's how we define ourselves completely. And so, you know, me and everyone else, I went through that. And then the fashion industry had a little bit different of an edge to it. Because I never planned on being in the fashion industry, I felt already a non citizen, I felt kind of like I, I was a guest, always a guest never, never, excuse me, I never felt like I was an invited guest. I felt like I crashed the party. The best way of putting it, I definitely felt that. So I think I always carried that with me. I also never went to college. So I felt like I carry that with me as well, that kind of stigma. And when really, you know, all of this stuff is learning on the job, you know. So, so I just, you know, fumbled and fall fell and made lots of mistakes. And sometimes in these, you know, then I learned a lot. And I became humbled. And that's when I just, you know, continue to learn and let the, the experience take me. Hope that makes sense.

Maryann Samreth 12:13
Yes. And thank you for just pointing that out. Like, we never know how we're going to react or what we're going to do next in the moment, because that's truly what it means to be present is just having a human experience. And that's so true. Like when you're in chaotic environments, like you are in survival mode, so you don't have time to process things as it's happening now.

Stephanie Venditto 12:37
Yeah, and one thing, I'll just be really transparent, and podcast when I do any kind of interviews or conversations in podcasts, I'm trying to just be as honest as possible about the process of this coaching journey and holding space with people, because it's a human journey. And I suppose when we put a formula to it, then we've taken ourselves out of the humaneness of it. So I So oftentimes, I'll fumble with my words and fumble with my articulation. When there's a question that pote that wants a kind of polished answer. I'm like, Rod, Oh, no. But that, but, you know, therein lies a different kind of articulation. So pardon? It pardon. While I fumble through any of these questions, that might seem a bit like wow, okay, let me just step back.

Maryann Samreth 13:41
This is the place where you can fumble through and

Stephanie Venditto 13:45
it's definitely my platform, then I'm your gal. Messy, I'm your girl.

Maryann Samreth 13:54
I mean, that's what I just love about all the lessons you have taught me since we met because, like, so I won't name where we both worked. But me and Stephanie worked at the same company, and they had our own experiences. And when I first met Stephanie, I was feeling like I was seeing for the first time of experiencing systemic trauma in a work environment. And you just made me feel you like that conversation was just so beautiful, because I don't even know what I was, you know, what I wanted when we met, I just wanted to be seen, I think by you and I just thinking back to the first time we we had our first Zoom meeting and like I was just talking about my experience and you know, this, this particular work environment and you just said, Hey, a breakdown is the healthiest thing you can do. And it's one of my favorite quotes from you because it really just took away all the shame I carried from just experiences where I beat my myself up over again. Because I didn't advocate for myself that I just stood in the sidelines that I just pretended to be, you know, like things didn't hurt me when it would it did. And you really just made me feel so human in that moment. And I just want to know, like, where did that mindset and that quote like come from, because that was the first time I heard that, and it just really gave me permission to just be a messy human.

Stephanie Venditto 15:25
Hmm. I think it's a universal desire, right? For us to be seen, be heard, be understood they relate into, we may not realize that, but I read something that was a study of human beings at childbirth, from an emotional standpoint, there are two essential things a child serves up survives on naturally survives on, it's essential to feel a sense of attachment to feel like, like one belongs and the other essential, is authenticity. And the just the experience of instinctually being who we are, and it's being expressing that without question. And so. So that comes up in this part of the conversation. And there's also this kind of release of all that we've been carrying around inside of us, that we don't realize we're carrying around. There's a lot of lineage we're carrying around, there's a lot of impactful experiences, we've had heightened experience we have, and it all kind of goes inside this vessel that we walk around and live and breathe in. And we simply forget what's inside, you know, and so when we get the privilege of being able to come on, done, it's almost like putting this heavy load down. And then we experienced this, you know, quote, Unbearable Lightness of Being on quote, and part of, you know, my, my response to you that they was this sense of release the sense of, you know, this exhaustion or this coming on, done, breaking down, helps soften the edges. It provides an openness for us, and it, it relieves us from the defenses, and then we become a bit more malleable or accepting of help from others, or, you know, there's a self compassion and, and all of that stuff. It's just, you know, breaking the system down. Yeah. So, yeah, it's considered a gift.

Maryann Samreth 18:03
Yeah, I mean, I definitely that happened. Definitely, in that moment, because I just, I carry that with me of the, the, you know, the perception of being that I have it together. And in that moment, when I met you, I was like, I can be messy. And it did feel like I was unraveling. And I had that release. And I could just, like, let that go and not carry that on. Because I think that was around the time where I had just quit my job, like, left the industry. And with that comes just kind of like, you're kind of looking back at everything that you did in your career. And for me, there was a lot of shame, there's a lot of pain, there's a lot of trauma. And for you to be able to like see all of that before I did it was it it was just to be held for who you are as a person and to be accepted for who you are, as a whole was just what you give me in that moment. And also like what you gave like my students in my class and like, what you give your clients with, just like everywhere you go, like, you just exude this, like safety nests within you. And you have that ability in that gift to make people feel belonging. And I didn't realize like you said that's like a natural development. That's important, right for children.

Stephanie Venditto 19:27
Mm hmm. It's and if if I provide any safety as you say, it's because you provide safety, because we're all reflections of each other. So anything you experience or seeing me You're simply seeing yourself and experiencing yourself. That's that's that is a truth, by the way. So none of us own any of this information or this, you know, we're just, we're just in the midst of experiencing stuff and it and, you know, we tend to downplay traumas. because we get so trained to, you know, get up and get on with it, which is great. But sometimes it's sort of like medicating a wounded leg or a broken leg. It's like you give it medication, you can't feel the pain. And you keep walking on it. And you're only damaging the leg even more and more and more to you know, possibly unrepairable. degree. So it's, you know, so that's why allowing the body to break down, allowing the mind to break down, allowing our hearts to come on done is reparative and restorative i right. It's, it feels counterintuitive sometimes. But in fact, that's where we we gain resilience, or we tap back into our resilience. It's like a home base, you know, with them. Yeah. Yeah.

Maryann Samreth 20:53
And it's the repairment is the healing process. And it's, it is building relationship with your mind and your body, and your spirituality. And I mean, that spirituality I didn't even think was real. And probably until I met you, what is your spiritual journey? And how did you have this understanding of generational trauma,

Stephanie Venditto 21:16
so I'm still on the journey. And I only can speak from my experience, and then from opening up the conversation with others, so that we get to share our own experiences, wisdoms and insights, and people articulate each one of us articulate what that was like. And so we get to listen to each other, and then provide safety for each other in doing so, in for, I mean, for me, just very aware that my, my, my mom, let's just say, carried a lot of pain, or unresolved sadness. And was, has such an amazing, you know, vivacious pneus for life and for, you know, just just living life and experiencing and go for it, go for it. And, and so, you know, it's just, I think all of us experienced this via the generation before us, and then the generation before that, it gets just passed down to us, anything that's unresolved, it's sort of like, the torch gets passed to us and say, Alright, you carry this now. And so it becomes like that relay race and, or that's at least how I see it. And you either, you know, are aware of that or not, I became aware of it. And then at some point in my life, I became, I just, I didn't know if I want to carry the torch anymore. I think to some degree, for sure, maybe I still am, but I have this awareness that that helps me not grip the torch, you know, so tightly. And in fact, you know, with practice and awareness, and you know, self compassion, all that stuff, that's just practice, we're not mastering any of this stuff. We're able to, you know, gently put this, this torch down, you know, metaphorically, just let go of the unresolved sadness of the generation before us, right, the generation before that, that because we were born through them, and we are part of their lineage doesn't have to equal making the same choices for believing in the same things, or seeing the world the way they saw it. But we we are, we have our own journeys ahead. And we get to create that in real time as we go. Right?

Maryann Samreth 24:05
Yeah, I mean, this makes me think about like, how spirituality is connected, you know, with our line edge with with our ancestors, but also with our intuition. So it's like this almost like paradox of like, tapping into yourself into your intuition, what the way you see yourself and also trying to honor your ancestors and also releasing all that pain. It's like this whole everything is like interconnected, but there's like a duality with spirituality and intuition and access accessing you is also accessing others, even if you don't kind of agree what has been passed down to you like these, you know? Sure. Like people say generational curses are like belief systems. It's, it's interesting. Just the connection of spirituality and intuition and tapping into yourself but also in a way freeing your ancestors to, if that makes sense?

Stephanie Venditto 25:03
Yeah, I mean, it makes sense to me. But for anyone who doesn't, you know, connect to spirituality, or that's not something that resonates with them. It's, it's just a connectivity or connecting to something it doesn't have, you know, whatever that is for each individual, you know, sometimes, you know, this kind of conversation isn't always as available to everyone, you know, and this kind of dialogue or articulation or metaphorical, you know, perspective of things. It really is, I mean, every single one of us have something, things that resonate with us things that we connect to things that we don't, you know, and every single one of us can either stop and shut it down for a second, and look around and get a sense of where each of us are at in our lives and, and who's in our space and who's in our day to day routine. That's my dog, Charlie.

Maryann Samreth 26:07
Hi, Charlie wants to be part of the

Stephanie Venditto 26:09
conversation. So yeah, just just opening it up to anyone who doesn't consider themselves spiritual. It's all it's all, you know, without overusing the word human but human journey. Yeah, no,

Maryann Samreth 26:25
I think that's a great point to bring up that everyone goes on their own healing journey. And that looks different for everyone. I think that's really important to highlight that just because something works for me, doesn't mean it works for you, or works for the next person that we're all like the creators, in the authors of our healing journey, whatever that looks like to an individual person.

Stephanie Venditto 26:47
Yeah, just as you you know, mentioned in your writing courses, you know, each individual is the writer of their story. Yeah. Or they're documenting their story, you know?

Maryann Samreth 26:59
Yeah, I think there's so much challenges that we have to overcome to get to a place where we feel like, we believe that we can be the writer of our stories, that was a mouthful, but having a sense of agency in the world is so hard. When it feels like there's so much noise. What advice do you give to people that, you know, want to stop, you know, letting the world dictate who they are and their worth and their value?

Stephanie Venditto 27:27
Well, you know, again, I don't have advice for anyone. Because if, because what resonates with me, and how I understand things might be different for someone else. I, you know, what I'm curious about is coming back to the sense of home base, and home base is a state of being actually which is just, you know, being you know, rather than they say that, no, there's a difference between the human doer and a human being. So it's that that state where we get to be in the present, and become the observer, rather than trying to survive out there. So we don't become victims of circumstance, we become observers of circumstance. And so one thing just to offer to this question, is that there's a really cool practice of acknowledging things that bring you back to self, for example, you know, for me, and this, I think a lot of people feel this way. But when I go on walks, walking is a really powerful source for me, because I feel like I'm, it's a physical journaling, when I'm walking, I honestly feel like I am so available to, you know, my own voice and what, what I instinctually am drawn to, and there's something about walking that brings me back home within myself, and it's so renewing, and so yeah, restorative and so and another thing is, for me swimming in the ocean, there's something so universal about that. So everyone has kind of like a baseline back to their home base within that state of being where we allow the outside world to do with do what it's doing at the pace it's doing it at and we're simply coexisting with the outside world within ourselves. I hope that's not confusing that there's it's really it's, it's there. It's very real, that when we get back so when we we acknowledge this home base within ourselves, and we allow ourselves and give permission to just be in our own space. He's in almost like a timeless mode, and we become the observer. And we, and we practice not having to fix anything. There's nothing to fix. allowing things to just be even doing that for one minute allows the nervous system to shift. And so that when we get back out into the world we're not, it's almost like we're not saying, It's like we're in a relationship, and we act, we say about our partner, you complete me, we're not asking the world to complete us, simply going out into the world, inviting the world to, you know, enjoy what we have to give, rather than asking the world can I fit in? Or am I good enough? Or it's so it's just a practice of a shift of understanding same thing with relationships, which is, you don't complete me, I don't complete you. But we can be present with each other right? Now. Have I mastered that? No. That's getting into a whole nother you know, conversation. You know, when we're married, or when we're in the workplace, or, you know, any, but it is it's simply just an invitation to practice the acknowledgement of home base, a state of being within one's self, where we tap into our instinct, our voice, our authenticity.

Maryann Samreth 31:38
Yeah, that is so beautiful, that I'm just almost like in tears. I always say like, because I'm on like, a, you know, I'm in deep trauma recovery journey right now. And I realized, like, I mean, your words keep popping in my ear, like, there's nothing to master, there's nothing to fix. And I think that's so important to remember, when you're moving through life, there is nothing to fix. And we're constantly having, you know, our inner critic, sabotage, the way we feel about ourselves. And I think that idea of like, there's nothing to master, it's just gives us permission to just feel everything, like pain, joy, moments of helplessness, like, even judgment. I know, like, a big thing for you is just like, it's okay to feel like insecurity over judgment. It's human. And it's, it's true, like, There truly is nothing to master or fix. We're just coexisting with the light and dark.

Stephanie Venditto 32:40
That's what's so like, just fascinating. And it's such a quagmire to our brains, I think, because I believe anyway, that just being simply being exactly where we're at, you know, it feels counterintuitive, that, you know, it's the, it feels intuitive to meet the standard, or it feels intuitive to, you know, get out there and show up. And here's where it gets a little gets a little confusing, where, you know, it's just that sense of allowing the day and letting the day reveal itself. Now, I feel like I'm getting a little too conceptualizing. And so I'm going to just like, kind of back off on this a little bit. Sorry, no, no, I

Maryann Samreth 33:31
like it. I've been super anyone

Stephanie Venditto 33:33
who might be listening to this. But just it one thing that struck me was how, how just being where we're at, at and on any given day, in any given moment, and just, you know, accepting that this is what it is, this is this is where I'm at right now at 150 on October 26, on a Tuesday, and that there is nothing to adjust about this moment. Sometimes that can feel extremely counterintuitive, because there's got to be more or we should put a little bit more to that or, you know,

Maryann Samreth 34:12
just does that make sense. Yeah, it's just like having intention through every aspect of your day and like just being there intentionality and not trying to be more than where you are right now. Just being like, this is okay. And it's hard. It's very hard to to do that. I'm always moving 1000 miles per hour, and I'm learning to just be okay with where I am. And I think that's hard for a lot of us, especially with burnout, culture and everything with the world moving so quickly. With social media. It's very hard to just receive the present moment in stillness.

Stephanie Venditto 34:46
Yeah, because it doesn't feel like we're doing enough. Yeah, no, there's that sense of like, I'm not doing enough right now. Or, you know, or there's lists. I know a lot of a lot of women in my room. As we think, you know, there's the almighty lists of things to do and can't get through the lists and don't have time to get through everything on the list. And when you don't get through everything on the list, you feel failed. And, you know, I failed again, I didn't do it again, again and again. So it's a constant, you know, loop of, and, and what is it that we're trying to, you know, achieve or accomplish here, you know, so, listen, then we're just, you know, sloppy, messy, you know, beings that we get, we get caught up in the world, and then we get to practice being, you know, present with ourselves, then we swing back out into the world and get stuck. So it's just a practice, you know, a sub swinging in and out of art, you know, ourselves. And, hopefully, if we do allow ourselves any kind of practice, to be with ourselves, that the, the gap of the swing gets a little bit shorter and shorter, you know, because, you know, because the world, we will get that we will get sucked back into the world, or we will jump back into the world and do it every day. We can practice acknowledging our own home base, as well.

Maryann Samreth 36:14
Yeah, yeah. But it's beautiful. And I think what, you know, happens a lot is that we get spiraled into, you know, darkness. And it's, it's hard to pull ourselves out of there, because it comes with a lot of shame. And there's just this spiral of being in this dark, but you always would say that being in the darkness is like a cozy place. And there, it's because all you have is your truths when you're there. Well, why,

Stephanie Venditto 36:42
and it depends on your perspective of what that darkness is, you know, I mean, here again, you know, it's that sense of being fully being present where you're at. And that's that sense of, I suppose we can say coming on done or shutting it down, or, you know, that's, that's where we have a chance to experience equanimity. You know, it's that sense of balancing, not balance, but just that, you know, just that sense of being in a heightened moment where we find a little bit of equilibrium, you know, right.

Maryann Samreth 37:25
Yeah. So like, harmony. Yeah, it's,

Stephanie Venditto 37:28
yeah, it and again, not to exhaust the word practice. But all we that's what we have, you know, yeah. It's like, give it a try. And when we go when we come back to self, that's the fuel, you know,

Maryann Samreth 37:46
right. Right. Yeah, definitely. So I know, You've been through many creative paths, and creativity is a huge part of it. It's like your constant companion in life. But how talk about like, the importance of creativity, and just like in a human experience,

Stephanie Venditto 38:06
the importance of creativity and a human experience? I mean, from my perspective, we're all creative beings. Right? And, and whether we realize it or not, we're, we're in a creative mode. And how, how is it? How has it been a constant companion for me? I just, I suppose I'm drawn. And I've always been drawn to, whether it intimidates me or not, but the art of expression. So maybe that's why I, my, you know, where I'm at right now is, I mean, for for work. I have conversations and collaborations. So there's, like a connection there. And there's, you know, it's again, circling right back to what you said, being seen feeling like you belong, allowing, you know, allowing yourself to or myself to express feels authentic, I guess. Yeah. And just, I don't know, there's, there's, there's something there's yeah, there's just something about that, for me. That feels very, very equalizing or yeah, just connected. Yeah.

Maryann Samreth 39:28
I think creativity is definitely tied to expression and it because it's always for you. The creative process is something that you craft and create for yourself. And it is really like those moments where you are creating whatever it is, whether in business or you know, an archer or whatever, like it's the most purest form of you. And I think that's so beautiful that every single human has the ability to be creative, and maybe going back to like creating that home base for you. for yourself is, is that desire to be creative, and always have that within us. So I think that's really, really beautiful. I have two final questions for you. What do you wish the world had more of? Oh,

Stephanie Venditto 40:12
my God, these are all very big questions. Let me just take a second. Yeah. And I'm going to just ask my authenticity, here. Um, you know, here's just popping up in my mind, just, you know, conscious awareness, a bit more of being, you know, honest and a bit more authentic, less formulaic. So, and yeah, I wish for the world that for us to just be a bit, you know, more honest about what we can and can't do, and, and then also a bit more consciousness to the Earth that we live in gives back to us and I really, that's something that, you know, I'm grown into, I was not consciously aware about the earth when I was younger, and I very much am now. And I and I do wish that we had a bit more reverence to it. That seems to be like a instinctual, you know, interest of mine right now.

Maryann Samreth 41:21
Yeah, yeah, I'm getting more like, I guess, acquainted with the earth. But I, the way I look at just nature, I'm just like, this is there's like, humans are not that smart. I mean, that's what's going through my brain, I'm just like, these plants are gonna be here still, when we all die, like, I'm just like, like, our relationship with nature with Mother Earth, it like, we don't have one. And it's just like, we can learn so much, just from, you know, just these trees that can grow on their own and shebelieves. Like, they're ever evolving, and they don't, you know, find, like, mourn like the impermanence of life, you know, like, they just cycled through it. And I think life and environment and nature, like they all, you know, have very parallels and we could learn so much from from the environment, but that's another topic.

Stephanie Venditto 42:13
Listen, every single question you've asked is fine, like, I don't know. I mean, I don't mean that carelessly, but it's just, you know, life is so experiential. You know, that it's, it's, it's, it's very, I find it challenging to talk about what hasn't happened yet. Because it's an experience, everything is an experience. So when, when any kind of, you know, question that seems invasive, I just get very Googly copy about you. Because, you know, we we don't know until we, you know, put one foot in front of the other,

Maryann Samreth 42:53
you know, right, right. Yeah. Well, you just answered my last question. What would you say that anyone on their healing journey? Is there anything you'd like to add?

Stephanie Venditto 43:03
What would I say to anyone on their healing journey? Um, I would just, you know, tap them on the shoulder and as a fellow journeyman, and say, Oh, hey, hi. You know, not hurts I love Yeah, I'm on the journey with them. Yeah,

Maryann Samreth 43:22
yeah, sometimes. That's all we need. So now we're not walking alone.

Stephanie Venditto 43:26
Yeah. Oh, god. Yeah, that's, that's so huge. Just knowing that you're not the only one, you know, going, feeling what you're feeling, thinking the thoughts that you're thinking, you know, trusting and not trusting feeling like an alien feeling like God, not the only one. So yeah, so that's why it's super cool, too. Yeah, just just, you know, practice or play around with just a bit. awareness and self kindness. Were these incredible like beings intellectual, primal, spiritual, and, or non spiritual, whatever, you know, that there's the intellect, but we're just such walking contradictions. Yeah,

Maryann Samreth 44:18
I love that walking contradictions. It's just so being able to walk as messy and human as we are and being as we are so many great lessons. Stephanie.

Stephanie Venditto 44:33
Yeah, getting curious with you. Yeah.

Maryann Samreth 44:36
Well, thank you so much for coming on my show and sharing your wisdom with me and my listeners. They're gonna get so much out of this episode. Where can my followers follow you and work with you?

Stephanie Venditto 44:50
Um, well, I I do amazing. I've gotten into coaching women's groups which are in credible, such a gift. It's a three month program. It's interactive, we meet twice a month as a group. And then I do individual coat coaching once a month with each woman, and those you can find out about in my website, actually, I'll post them also on Instagram. So my website is Stephanie than ditto.com. And you can reach out to me to do a consultation and just get curious and have a conversation with me and my Instagram, which I don't always post on but okay, is step then d S T E p h, V like Victor, E. N. D. I. Yeah,

Maryann Samreth 45:49
thank you. Yeah, I'll be sure to add those on the show notes so people can find you and work with you. And definitely recommend working with Stephanie. She's helped me with so many breakthroughs. And again, I want to thank you for coming on my show. And in an amazing guest speaker sharing your wisdom.

Stephanie Venditto 46:07
First of all, thanks for inviting me, you're awesome. The work that you're doing is pretty awesome. And with who you're doing it with it's it's a you know, comes from your own journey. You're in such an authentic ride right now with yourself. And it's really, really wonderful and inspiring. So thanks for thanks for letting me have a conversation with you.

Maryann Samreth 46:27
Of course, one of many.

Stephanie Venditto 46:31
We continued,

Maryann Samreth 46:32
Yes. So thank you

thank you all for listening to Stephanie's journey. And I hope you enjoy this episode, it was a really fun one for me to edit and re listen to this conversation I had with Stephanie just re listening to it really came at a time in my life that I needed to hear this conversation of just being okay with where I am, and allowing myself just to be in this current state of having to rest because of my body. So I hope this is a reminder for you to just accept that where you are is okay, except that we are all just living our lives moment to moment, not knowing what's going to happen next, not knowing how we're going to react to what happens next, that we don't even need to shame ourselves. Because we are just, you know, going moment to moment with unpredictable feelings that arise as we go through our lives. And so it's okay Stephanie has a women's group coming up. It's called Listen, relate and realign women's group and she's continuing to grow it along doing virtual woman groups all over the world. And she's also doing an in person group in Newport, Rhode Island. So if you guys are there, definitely check that out. And she's also going to plan a retreat into Mexico. She's doing it all and she also works with people one on one, so you can go on her website Stephanie vendido.com. I will put that in the show notes and also follow her on Instagram at Steph Vendee. I will also put those in the show notes. Thank you all for listening to this episode and I will talk to you all soon.

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