S2E35: Healing Through Trauma Writing, A Memoir Update With Maryann Samreth

Maryann goes solo for the second time in season 2. she vulnerably shares her memoir writing process about a challenging trauma story and reads an excerpt from her wip memoir.

In this episode, I take you through the trauma writing process by writing the toughest chapter of my memoir, my suicide story. If this episode topic is triggering for you, please use your discretion. I go deep within my writing process, my healing process, and the steps I have taken through metabolizing this experience into a story where I reclaim my power and stand in my truth. I also read this chapter, in its rawest form, for you to witness the transformation of my pain into a powerful story.

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Welcome to mental breakthrough, a mental health podcast about owning our most vulnerable stories. As a reminder, we are all human. I'm MaryAnn Samreth, trauma writing coach, founder of sincerely Miss Mary and your host. In this season, I bring in healers, coaches, therapists and writers in the mental health and thought leadership space to share their stories of overcoming their shadows, to get to a place where the light shines again. These are trauma survivors, mental health advocates, spiritual guides, coaches, and first and foremost, human beings, reminding us to be softer and kinder to ourselves, so we can then meet others with the same compassion. The power and sharing our truths with the world gives permission for others to feel safe experiencing theirs. As a disclaimer, this podcast is not a replacement for trauma informed therapy. But as always, you can find mental health resources on my website at www that sincerely, Miss mary.com.

Hey, everyone, I am so excited to share today's episode with you this episode is how to heal through trauma writing. So the way that I'm going to teach you is to share my process of writing a current chapter of my memoir, this is one of the hardest chapters I have ever written. It's taken me two years to write Yes, two years I started writing this in 2020, you'll learn why learn all the stories and all the things I did to process, this particular story, there is a trigger warning, I will be talking about my suicide attempt. So if this is triggering for you, then I suggest that you don't listen to this episode, maybe skip through the parts where I talk about suicide and just zoom forward to the parts where I talked about writing, but it is a it's about suicide. And I the reason why I chose this this topic is because suicide is a very hard topic for me to personally write. And I want to take the most challenging thing to dissect, and analyze and give you tools on how to write something similar because I believe that, you know, within my process, you can learn a lot as well. And also this, this is the way that I teach others as well, I share this framework of trauma writing, from inner child nurturing, to feeling the feels to all my clients. It's a process. So I take you through the ins and outs of me writing this difficult chapter of my life that took two years to write and also take breaks and process and live my life and then go back to writing, which I just wrote yesterday, I wrote this chapter yesterday. So I'm very excited to share this with you guys. I also read a chapter of my memoir I read, I read the suicide chapter. So I hope you enjoy it. It's very raw and unfiltered. But I want to bring you guys on the journey of me writing my memoir, I don't see anyone else doing it. I don't see anyone sharing their process. And as a memoir, writing coach, I'm going to take you on this journey with me because this is what I'm doing. I will be pitching to literary agents, I have one still waiting for me to send them chapters, I'm still trying to perfect before I send it to him. I you know, this is something that is real for me. And I want to take you on this journey. So you can be there with me, as well. And also be inspired to write your memoir too and know that it is possible that you can do it that this isn't you know, it's it's not impossible to write your memoir, you can do it. It's just a process. It's step by step and it's taking your time it's knowing that there is no timeline to writing your memoir you take all the time you need because writing your story is for you. So I hope you enjoy this episode. And before we begin, I have a few words from my sponsor, I have a morning routine that I loved so much because of mine shine. Mine shine is a mental health coaching app but it is somatic and formed they use inner child work. They allow you to take notice and sensations passing in your body. And I love that because that is truly how you regulate your nervous system and your emotions by feeling your feels and noticing what's happening in your body and mind train does a really great job of taking you through that journey. So I definitely recommend downloading mind shine. It's an amazing mental health coaching app. And you can use my code Miss Mary for one free month so you can check it out and check out all the different coaching and do the breath Work exercises and the EFT exercises. It's an amazing app. And it's it's just accessible to everyone. So I'm giving you guys one month free use code. Miss Mary, I hope you enjoyed the episode

Hey everyone, today's episode is healing through trauma writing, I am going to be walking you through how to write your trauma story. By sharing my process and taking you through my journey of writing a chapter of my life, the best way to teach is to share my process with you through storytelling through vulnerability through a current chapter, literally currently writing a chapter of my life. So in this episode, I'm going to share my current writing process, a chapter that I completed writing yesterday, well work in progress. But this is a story that I have been trying to write since 2020. So I'm gonna go over that. I will also give you tangible tools to help you write your own trauma story, based on what I have done within my writing process of this particular chapter. And then I'm also going to read you this chapter I wrote, because it's very vulnerable and raw. And I just want you to take you guys with me, on my memoir writing process, I'm doing the damn thing I am healing and writing and healing and writing, taking breaks. And I'm doing the thing, I want to show you the process because not a lot of people share the process. And I am going to so you know, you can do this too. So you know that it is possible to write your memoir, it is taking it step by step. Let's begin. So this chapter that I wrote, actually, I wrote this yesterday, is a trigger warning, suicide. It's about suicide. It was about my suicide attempt when I was 27 years old, at the height of mastering my trauma, and having very just traumatic experiences at this one particular fashio abusive fashion work environment, it was prolong toxicity, and it really adjust nurtured the wound that was already in my body. If you know you know what mastering your trauma means and if you are not, if you have not heard that term, mastering your trauma is what happens when you have unprocessed trauma from your past. And you're not aware of it. So you keep repeating this trauma experience over and over and over again, it's an experience that happens in your mind, body, and spirit. trauma affects all aspects of you. And it's it's a physiological, it's also physiological as well, trauma impacts your nervous system. So it it for me, I didn't have a trauma response that was complete in my body from experience I had in my past that I just kept repeating, you know, the same experience experiences over and over and over again, to try to overcome it to try to complete a trauma response. So I would be in a pattern of abusive relationships, abusive friendships, abusive work environments, because I was unconscious, to a wound from the past. The chapter that I have been trying to write since 2020, was about my suicide attempt when I was 27. And repressed emotions and memories came back during the height of the pandemic. So I spent a lot of time that year processing what had happened with my therapist, because I just felt so much shame and guilt. Because when, you know, at that time, I had been healing so much from my abusive relationship that I really began to love myself that I felt so bad that I had an experience where I thought the world would not miss me if I was gone. That was when those memories came up. And that's when I began writing about it. And so I was writing from the wound, because even though I was writing about the past, because I didn't finish, you know, processing what had happened because during that time, I just was so dissociated, and in such a state of depression that I couldn't feel anything, those emotions were coming up again. So I began writing about it, I began writing poetry things that I still have not shared i i wrote one poem and sent it to, to one of my dear friends who who was there when that happened when that incident, he was there and he actually like saved my life and didn't know it. So that's the story. that you will hear later when I when I read this excerpt from my memoir, but I was writing from the wound, and that's okay. Because when you're writing about trauma, these past motions are going to come up and your body can't differentiate time. It doesn't know that time has passed, if you didn't process your emotions in the past, which is totally valid, because you know, you're in a survival state,

you have to do what you need to do to survive, you don't, you know, your body's not going to process emotion. If you are in survival mode. That's, that's a, you know, that's a survival mechanism that our bodies are doing to protect ourselves, you're not going to be able to process your emotions. So when you're writing about the past, and you are safe now, and I was safe, I am safe. Now. Yesterday, I wrote this whole thing yesterday, my chapter, I am safe today, I'm

safe. Now. Those feelings emerge. And that's okay. I just had to feel all of those feelings. Using all of the tools I have learned in CBT therapy, somatic experiencing my framework of trauma, writing, all of my tools was was all you know, used yesterday when I was writing this chapter. So these emotions were coming up. And I just let myself feel them. I felt, you know, I felt that shame again, coming up, like rewriting that scene, I felt, I felt, you know, the one emotion that stuck out for me was, was sadness. Like, I felt so sad for this 27 year old version of me, who believes she wasn't worthy of love, because she was believing the actions of you know, people upholding leadership positions, she was believing what they were showing her and what they were telling her. And I just, I felt sad for that girl, I felt sad for that inner child. And so I stayed with that sadness, I stayed with that sadness. And I just, I nurtured this 27 year old, I listened to her sadness, I asked her what her sadness was saying, this is inner child healing is staying with these emotions from the past that are coming up in the present. And it's real emotions are real in your body. And I and I nurtured it, I asked what it needed, gave this past version of me what she needed during that time, because she was coming up, and she still wanted my body, she's still here. So I allowed myself to give her what I needed, validated her emotions, validated her feelings, and nurtured her. And this is a big part of inner child healing, and somatic internal family systems, where there is a part of us that is wounded coming up into the surface. And instead of shaming it and putting it away, telling it to go away, we we bring it to the surface, and we let it exist in the present moment, we let it exist in this safe space, because we are safe today. And this is this is inner child healing, healing. This is how you complete processing of emotions, you feel it through, and you nurture it, and you just allow it to slowly dissipate. And when that sadness, that sadness dissipated, I felt relief. And I honored that as well. Because I just did that on my own as I began writing this really, really hard chapter of my life. And when things got hard during this chapter, when I, you know, wrote a scene about an old coworker telling me that today I would not be designing handbags, I would be cleaning up the closet. And I started to feel triggered. Again, I looked outside myself, literally, it's called orienting and somatic experiencing, it's a, it's a grounding exercise. I looked around the room at something that made me feel safe. I looked at my dog in the room, and she brings me joy, she makes me feel safe. So I looked at her. And this is called orienting. So knowing your resources when things get hard, and just this allowed me to tap into the present moment to ground myself down to remind myself that even though I'm writing a hard chapter about my life, I am safe. I am safe. I am here, I'm looking at my dog. Even though I'm writing about suicide, I'm looking at my dog and I am safe now. And I am not the same person as that 27 year old in fact, I am the person she dreams of being and I am here. So orienting and knowing your resources is so important in writing your memoir or writing a personal essay writing your trauma story is to have access to tools outside of yourself, as well as inside of yourself. So if you start to get triggered while writing your story, visualize a place that makes you feel safe for me. It's the bookstore in Paris, Shakespeare and CO that's one of my favorite places. I always go back to the image. If I start to spiral if I start to feel unsafe, I go back there, and I just slowly breathe into that space. Like I was there, gather your resources. When you are writing something difficult, know your resources, even keep a list somewhere maybe on your phone like trigger resource list. So if you're going about the day and you get triggered, go go back to your notes app and read your list and know your resources. Writing about trauma is a very hard process. It is not impossible, but it is challenging. I have done so many healing modalities from EMDR, somatic experiencing CBT, therapy, hypnotherapy, I've done it all, in writing about trauma, it's still so difficult.

But what I get out of it, the impact of my life from completing a trauma story, not even just not even sharing it, because that's another episode. That's a different mindset. But just the process of writing my story, having an inner adventure, it is so profound, the way I can connect the dots to my life, to expand my view of my life where I feel liberated, that's the result of writing, writing a trauma story, you feel free, you feel liberated. And that's, that's not an experience I've been able to have to any other modality, besides writing in writing is something you can always have access to, it is free, you buy a journal and, and you just write and it's for you. So know your resources. When you're writing your story, know that it's okay to pause, look around, orient yourself, do what you need to do to ground yourself, even if you need to take a break from a story. Remember, I started writing my Suicide Story in 20, I just finished this this chapter yesterday, that's two years,

I took lots of breaks, I've tried to write the story so many times, and I couldn't, because I still had to process and within the process saying I did other things beside trying to write this story, you know, like what had happened during the suicide attempt, I you know, was so dissociated I was in my dorsal ventral if you know, you know, polyvagal. And I was so dissociated that I had walked a few blocks from this office from this fashion house, and nearly stepped into traffic. That's how not here I was. So, so close to doing that. And so within, you know, having to write the story, and then feeling triggered, and then just stopping, like in 2020, this is what happened, I had to stop. I then went back to that site in New York City on the corner of Broadway and 18th street, and I bought myself flowers, I wrote myself a card nurturing this, this 27 year old girl, and I put, I put these kind of like offerings on that street corner, and maybe I looked crazy, I don't, I didn't care this was for me. And so I just laid that for her just kind of like a peace offering to my past off, like, hey, like, you don't have to hang on to shame anymore. You don't have to hang on to guilt, you can be free. That was part of the processing I had to do. In order to write that story. Sometimes when things get hard, and you have to take a break, you can also process it in other ways. Maybe it's not writing, maybe it's actually physically doing something to nurture your wounded inner child, which is, which is what I did, I did that I also, it's on tic tac toe, I recorded that whole experience in it. And it was it was beautiful to do and also to share that experience with other people. So many people just resonated with the shame they carry from having suicide attempts or having suicide ideations. There was a lot of compassion all around, there was just, you know, breaking that stigma and honoring the nuance of the human experience, especially of suicide. It's it's such an untalked about topic, but if we want to break stigma, if you want to understand that we have to have that conversation, we have to so that was part of my processing was was doing that and also connecting with one of my friends now also work there was a guest lead in one of my trauma writing group programs. Stephanie vendido. And she told me when when I for the first time I met her in a Zoom meeting because it was during the pandemic. We were just kind of exchanging our experiences and I was telling her about mine and she was just like, like in the darkness you find your gifts. In the darkness you find your gifts and those words stay with me to this day because it's is allowed me to have more compassion for myself. That's what we need for some of our past experiences where we carry a lot of shame, we just need to expand our view of what happened, and allow the light to come in and allow compassion to come in. And realize that even in the darkest moments, there was light. And even in the darkest moments of that time, when I was 27, and thinking about making my own life, there was light, there was guardian angels, there was my ancestors watching me taking care of me, nurturing me making sure that I was safe. Within that moment, which again, you will hear, I won't be reading this chapter of my memoir. So yeah, it's having an inner adventure and an outdoor adventure when when you're writing a dark season of your life, it's also allowing yourself to live your life as well, and see how these dots connecting your story also create meaning in your life in real time, as well, like, it's, it's all connected, it's all interconnected. And it's a beautiful process, to write your story, although it's challenging, and it's hard, but the way that you see how meaning is created, from writing a dark chapter of your life, and how it also impacts your day to day life. And you continue to see that meaning, like, for me, it's like, oh, like they're like, in the darkness, their gifts. Like I still see that today. It's just, it's wild, when you start to connect those dots. And so yes, so 2020, I began writing that story didn't work, I processed it through, you know, honoring my my past self by going to that site where I almost took my own life. And I honored her. And I just started to feel more free after that. And then, in 2021, I kind of took a break from writing that and continue to live my life right other parts of my memoir experienced other repressed memories coming up, did more healing work with that. And, and in 2021, I began writing supporting stories around this incident, I didn't go right into writing about this moment, I wrote about my other experiences within the fashion industry, other abuse. I have experience like the time I cried in the bathroom and had a panic attack, which I realized was a PTSD episode, I wrote about other experience at different fashion work environments where I got my first job at Marc Jacobs, because I applied on the Marc Jacobs website, and the HR women took a chance on me even though I just apply it on the website. And I realized, like, oh, like, even though, like, you know, I shed so much negativity on the industry, there weren't good people there. There were people that saw me that believed in me, and she was one of them. And so I wrote, you know, a lot of my experience in the fashion industry, and I realized that like, I did have a lot of great experiences there. Even in some of the abusive work environments, within those abusive work environments, I still had good memories with the few friends I had at that place. And I appreciate that, because the bad experience never negated. The relationships I made at those places it would never darkness will never prevail. You know, shitty people will never take away from the amazing friendships I have made at those abusive work environments, because I did make some really great friendships. And I realized looking back that even though I was in the dark, even though I wasn't in, you know, a state where I was present a state where I could make rational decisions, I was surrounded by people who also kept me safe. And I'm so grateful for for all of them. Those, those particular women that, you know, I am still connected to today who I'm just grateful they weren't there to, like I wasn't in the darkness alone. They were there with me. So I wrote, you know, this is even more resources. I began writing, you know, most of my fashion experiences last year, and that really allowed me to just gather more resources that by the time I was ready to write about this suicide attempt, I felt safely held to that. I wasn't completely alone. During that time that I did have people that cared for me during that time where I just felt so alone. So when you're writing about trauma, ease into the wound, don't write about the worst thing that happened to you right away without having any resources right into the wound, ease into the wound and take your time. Remember, this chapter took me two years. So ease into the wound. Take your time, right other moments surrounding that really traumatic one, and build your resources, so cut to yesterday, I began writing this chapter, there's a lot of ease through this writing process. There are moments where I did feel activated in my body, but I knew what to do to get back to the present moment, I knew that I was safe. And I knew that I could complete this chapter of my memoir, having processed my experiences within the past two years in the meaning I was able to make from this experience was a bull's a number of things. One I wasn't alone to the topic and the conversation of suicide is so complex, it is gray, there is no black and white it is completely a gray area. And it's something that I am passionately wanting to destigmatize not only to cancel the shame for suicide survivors, but also to prevent suicides as well is to talk about it to talk about the raw emotions that I was going through at that time. And to know that I am safe today. And that's the experience, I want someone to get out of that I don't want anyone to get triggered. So definitely, if this is triggering for you still need to process it. You know, don't listen to the rest of the episode where I share this piece. But if you are in a place where you are healing, you are doing that work, but you still have some shame around a suicide attempt, then I want I want you to be able to cancel the shame. Expand your view of your own life, know how powerful you are, know how also valid you are to feel during that time and just expand your view of yourself. Because you are so much bigger and greater than some of the worst things that have happened to you. And I say that meaning that you, you have so much power, even to be so vulnerable in that moment, you are still a powerful force, and you're still worthy of so much love in the world. So,

so I hope that makes sense. You know, this, the best way to be a teacher is to show you my process. And so the things that I will repeat again, the tools to write your own trauma story is number one, know your resources. Whether it's external around the room to make you feel safe, internal, any imagery you have, for me it was a bookstore, know your resources to keep you safe. Number two, know your story. Why know why you're writing your story, what your intention is, whether you are writing from the wound or writing from the scar, or both? What do you want to get out of writing the story. And when you get those two down, start writing your story, start writing your story. And when emotions come up, no, that's from your inner child wounding. and nurture your inner child, ask your inner child, what it is your she needs. And you are the person to give her exactly what she needs. And know that there is no timeline, I lost count, I don't know if I'm on three or four, whatever. But know that there is no timeline, to writing your memoir to writing hard chapters writing a trauma story, there is no sense of urgency, you have to complete this. Unless you have a book deal. And you you literally have to complete it like maybe but But what I'm saying is before you even begin to think about publishing it, the writing process is for you. It is your timeline you take all the time you need because writing your trauma story is having energy move in the body, it is moving energy in the body, it's releasing energy, you are having an inner adventure, in your nervous system in your entire being in your mind, your body, your spirit. So be kind yourself, take your time to process to metabolize new meaning that comes up new triggers that come up. Take your time, because you have to honor your body's needs. And you have to listen to it. And also permission to feel allow yourself to feel an emotion to completion. It takes about 90 seconds to regulate your emotion. Feel it to completion. Otherwise, that emotion becomes trapped energy in your body and then they'll spiral over and over again. So just feel that sadness, feel that anger, feel that rage, whatever it is. Allow yourself to feel it. That's what your body wants. That's what your body needs. give your body what it needs. So permission to feel your feelings while you're writing your story. And my last tangible tip is to make meaning from your story. What is the takeaway? Well What is the wisdom you discovered within your story writing process that you now want to pass on to others. So I hope those tips in me sharing my process can help you write your trauma story. And I do have a few trauma writing exercises for you for grounding exercise, put your feet on the ground, learn this and somatic experiencing my training, put your feet on the ground your back against the chair, find something in the room that makes you feel safe at ease. Look at it. Notice what feelings you have in your body. And just be with that object. Notice what's happening in your body, as you are looking at something that's making you feel at ease. Maybe your breath is slowing down, maybe your shoulders are relaxing, maybe your neck is relaxing, that's self soothing. That's grounding that's keeping you in the present moment. So do that exercise before you even begin writing in the second exercise is to write about your story, your trauma story, channeling the future version of yourself. So imagine who you are five or 10 years from now, the person you aspire to be. And remember, this is your future self. It's uncertain, so may as well. Dream big. Dream big. Who are you? Did you publish that book? Are you a New York Times

bestselling author Are you on stage, channel that person and write about your trauma story. And this can be just like a short little exercises can be like a synopsis of the bigger story that you want to write, but just do this exercise, channel your future self, and write about your past self, because chances are your future self is really compassionate towards your past self. So just channel that, that thing about the body that it can't differentiate time. So if you are able to channel your future self and feel what that person you envision to feel towards a trauma story, your body is going to take note of that your body is going to feel that energy, that energy of your future self and that is very powerful for your body to experience. So I hope those exercises help but I hope those exercises were a great help for you. So now I am going to read a chapter of my memoir about my suicide attempt. This will be very, very raw. It's a work in progress, but I want it to take you on this journey with me. And by the way before we even start reading this. This is Chapter has not been edited. I just wrote this. And that's okay, because it'll it's gonna get better. This chapter is called nowhere safe. Hey, Maryann, I have a special project for you says, Nicola, I get excited as I just walked into the office, maybe today I'll get a real project. Maybe today I'll feel like I matter. Maybe today I will feel worthy. I sent my things down my cubicle and I walk past a double stitch tote my beloved design I worked so hard on what Connor the design director, Connor believed in my talent, my skill set. Although he wasn't the nicest to other designers, he had a soft spot for me. And I gladly took that in because outside of his nurturing was a cold cruel world, created by Sofia Fredriksson, a woman who is no leader to me, but a woman who had a heart of steel, but a demeanor of an orchid. She had kind eyes a soft voice and an essence of kindness and like I wanted to get her approval yet beneath the surface was darkness, as if she sacrificed herself to make it in a man's world. She was living in a man's world and every day with every ounce of muscle pulled us into it. Because in a man's world there is no woman who can claim herself. In a man's world there is no choice only hierarchy. And in a man's world, you are never worthy. She painted the sun over with the blood of the patriarchy. And in her world. We were all pawns. Sophia has this great idea for you to organize a closet says Nicola. It's filled with dust and old bags if you can just tear everything out and organize what we can keep and what to get rid of. I think that would greatly benefit the team. Nicola was not my boss. She was a freelancer. And as much as I wanted to respect her and like her, she was playing puppet to a woman who served no one but her fragile ego because if she played along, she would be safe. If she played along, she wouldn't be me. I do what I always do in the midst of repression and pain and a son over my rage. Great idea. Nicola, I say with a smile. I'll get started. I sit back at my cube, the computer screen black, and I stare and I begin to leave this place. My feet slightly lifted. At the toes, my spine curled over. I'm no longer here. I am someplace else back in a place where silence and complicity was the unspoken bible of a family system. Back in a place where bad things prevailed and good things were unknown. I was back in my childhood home and I was not safe. The computer screen becomes a haze. Everything is foggy and I am no longer here. I'm in a place where I don't matter. I hastily get off from the computer chair eyes dazed head in the clouds. I'm in the lobby. I pressed the elevator doors. It's only 10am but maybe I'll get lunch. I get in the lobby as a few co workers passed by me. Hey, Maryann says EU. I smile lightly wave can go back to nowhere. I ride the elevator down the tip of my feet not touching the floor. I get down to the main level and walk on the streets of 18th Street and Seventh Avenue. I walk towards Fifth Avenue I keep walking I am nowhere and I am going nowhere so my feet keep moving but never fully touching the pavement. As I move closer and closer to what felt like the end of the world. I breathe. I breathe and nowhere. Outside Barnes and Noble and Union Square were massive delivery trucks soon by speeding just past the light at busy intersection. I stood there many times Broadway and 18th Street feeling the wind on my chest as each truck zoomed by. What if I just took one step forward?

I would fantasize frequently during my lunch breaks. What if I just disappeared was a fantasy to die. It was a fantasy for me to no longer be in this world where I didn't matter. Nicola wouldn't care if I was gone, no one in that office would care. If I for a moment decide to disappear. This would be nice. Because nowhere it would feel better than nowhere safe. Yet these moments never self actualize as urgency to go back to that office awakened my senses from this daydream. Until this moment when I lived in my daydream. Like a trance, I walked towards the corner of ATMs and Broadway. I'm nowhere again, fully in maybe permanently knower and simultaneously at the edge of my world, my head in the clouds. I'm living in my daydream and about to bring my fantasies to life. My feet were halfway through this daydream, what my toes curled up, I allow my foot to lift completely and slowly step fully down right as a semi truck begins to zoom past the light my body halfway into the street, my foot slowly plants in front of me awaiting what I want it to be true for my life. Hey, Marianne, voice awakens my daydream. I look towards the voice to the right of me. It's Simon. He's smiling at me. He didn't knew my pain. He didn't know my burden. He didn't knew anything about the shame that I carried from entering hell, every single day, Simon worked at different fashion house and we'd often run into each other from time to time. You also probably had a few crushes on each other. Hi, I say he looks at me and smiles. He sees me hears for me, he acknowledged my presence in a way where I felt like I mattered. I am awaken from nowhere, and my feet steps back firmly to the ground. I'm no longer nowhere. I am here.

This was a heavy episode. And I hope you got a lot out of it and feel ready to write your memoir get started. And if you need my help, you need my guidance. I would love to be your memoir, writing coach, I'd love for you to apply to my dare to rise three a month coaching program where I guide you step by step to write your memoir from beginning to end, or set a plan or you will be able to complete it after our three months of working together and also help you build a online presence. So you can get that book deal so you can break into the publishing industry so you can land a literary agent. Although I do work with people who want to Self Publish. I do recommend you just try getting a literary agent and getting a book deal you may as well try and see what what can happen for you because there are a lot of opportunities that can come with getting a book deal. And getting a team around you doing a book tour and have someone do it for you. That's my plan that that is my plan and I want to I want you to know that this is possible for you that you can be a best selling author that you can get your voice heard in by you growing your social media following by you putting yourself out there it's slowly sharing your writing with the world your dreams of being a best selling author can happen and I would be honored to guide you through it so you can go to www dot sincerely Miss marry.com/dare to rise to a Apply and see if you know we'd be a great fit to work together. I would love to coach you on writing your memoir, I have over 100 hours of somatic trauma therapy training, and I use a, you know, a particular framework to coach you through it. So you have an experience a transformation, you have an experience of healing on a deeper level, and I would be so excited to guide you through that experience. So I hope you enjoyed this episode. Let me know how you feel about it. slide into my DMs or Instagram or Tiktok whatever you you don't know reach out to me however you want to email, whatever I'm here. I'm everywhere so you know how to reach out to me. So yeah, I hope you enjoyed this episode. And if you are writing your story, be proud of yourself, celebrate yourself, celebrate your inner child. This is hard work and you're doing it because you're brave and and to be seen for all that you are is so liberating. It is so freeing. So I hope you enjoyed this episode and I will talk to you guys all soon. Bye

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