An Amicable Breakup

I had an amicable breakup almost a week ago. It was with New York City. A breakup is the best way I can describe leaving a city like this.

I’ve lived here for 9 years, and for a long time, I refused to look at the mirror of my inner wounds and kept crashing against the waves of city life.

I would numb with working 80 hours a week in the fashion industry, binge-drinking, and eating so unhealthily I developed an auto-immune disease (Hashimoto, anyone?).

This city has broken me open in ways I needed to be.

I was unraveled in 2019 and was left with the power of choice. To rebuild a new life where no one dictated my value or my worth.

That power resides in me.

When I finally looked in my mirror, I was able to see my greatest potential along with all the blocks that stopped me from getting there.

To unblock false beliefs, toxic behaviors, and a story I told myself was the beginning of my healing journey.

This allowed me to create an intentional life of advocacy, authenticity, compassion, trust, and fearlessness.

To heal in a place that broke you is the ultimate definition of resiliency.

My heart is so full leaving New York City with so many intentional relationships I cultivated the past year, old and new.

I’m so open to surrendering to the process of being human: the pain, the joy, the peace, and the beautiful.

Every experience matters, as comfortable, light, or heavy it is.

It all matters to live a life of intentionality-where you feel the most alive.

Have you left a place that was once home?

You’re allowed to grieve and celebrate the process of moving forward.

Sincerely,

Mary

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